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#119 – Terry Real: Breaking the cycle of shame, anger, and depression


Original release date: 7/13/20 Terry Real, a renowned family therapist and best-selling author, helps people create the connections they desire in their relationships. In this episode, Terry describes how his upbringing with an abusive father forged his path to become a therapist, develop his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) framework, and write I Don’t Want to Talk About It—a book that reveals the hidden legacy of male depression.

Terry discusses the link between childhood trauma and the deep-rooted shame, anger, and depression, which can result in feeling disconnected. Using real-life examples, Terry explains how he implements RLT to confront trauma, discover its origin, and teach the skills to break the cycle of pain, in order to live a satisfying life.

We discuss:

-Terry’s upbringing with a depressed and abusive father [3:15];

-The importance of the repair process, after relational disharmony, to break the trauma cycle [15:15];

-The impact of a patriarchal society, and relational growth as the next step for feminism [19:00]; -Origins of deep-rooted shame, and the difference between feeling ashamed and feeling guilty [27:15]; -Preventing the propagation of trauma without over-coddling kids [35:30]; -The one-up/one-down cycle from grandiosity to shame [37:30]; -Covert depression—Steps to fixing the secret legacy of male depression [40:00]; -Three forms of false self-esteem [50:00]; -Narcissism—a misunderstood concept [51:45]; -The interplay of shame, anger, and grandiosity, and how to break the cycle [54:15]; -The Relational Life Therapy framework [1:06:30]; -How the adaptive child becomes the maladaptive adult [1:15:30]; -Speaking the language of social relationships [1:21:45]; -When does it make sense for a couple to separate? [1:26:30]; -Witness abuse—Consequences of screaming at your partner in the presence of children [1:28:15]; -Cases of instantaneous change, and others which take more time [1:30:45]; -Reconciling with his father—Terry’s final conversation with his dad [1:33:45]; and -More. Show notes page: https://peterattiamd.com/terryreal/

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